Do you know who you are? And what you’re about?
Looking after your nutrition when looking after a family can be difficult at times, something I know about with a little boy running around the house!
When It comes to dieting, weight loss or transforming our body we need to think long term if we want to keep the progress for life. The lesson we learn at school is the turtle wins the race… and for weight loss many of us may have tried to be the hare as a method to lose weight rapidly, having to go to extremes with our nutrition which also results in very unenjoyable process. A diet that restricts so many things, and ends up being awful to follow and depressing to maintain, all making it ten times hard to do.
Two over looked reasons that derail progress
Do you keep setting off on a journey of change only to discover a few days, weeks into it, to realise you keep dropping off and disconnecting from what it is you set out to achieve.
If this is you, keep reading, stay with me and hopefully I can help you on this one……
I’m a big fan of speaking to people who follow my work, now one of my biggest personal daily drivers is to look into the pains of people who are trying to change and look how we can create systems to help people move forward.
So a fun fact for you, did you know only 5% of people who set goals actually see them through to the end? Crazy right….?
Here are 2 different or overlooked reasons that I see derail those who have set out on a path of change, growth and transformation.
1 - The goal isn’t for them
Before I write any more, I want you to do one little exercise for me.
Stop for a second, take a big breath in, hold it for 4 seconds, breath out and without justification, thought or questioning ask yourself.
“Is what I am working towards actually for me?” Answer, straight away…. GO!
On a day to day I see and speak to so many people who keep setting out to achieve goals to please other people or to prove a point to someone that isn’t them.
Your goals, these must to be for you, to please you and to add only value to your life.
If it goes against any of the above, the likely hood is you’ll derail pretty quick or worse if you are like me super stubborn and do what I did:
For those that have followed me, seen me speak, a story I love to teach is the one of climbing a mountain only to realise once at the top you’ve climbed the wrong one.
This one I can speak so openly about and empathise with so many people because I too have done this. However, I’m one of the stubbornest MOFO’s ever and giving up isn’t in my thought process. So this one didn’t derail me and unfortunately I saw it through after a lot of time, investment and hard work. So when when I accomplished it, it was a very empty feeling.
So trust me here the beginning phase of setting a goal for many, can usually be the place most fall.
I see this because goals sometimes can act as the wrong motivation driver, as they become external tools for people to meet their basic human needs. (usually significance or connection)
Ensure that of which you are about to commit to and invest in, is for you and you only.
2 – Comparison
Comparison, this one I have seen over the years climb up the ranks of Simon’s why I see people give up-meter. AKA the FAILDAR
Comparison although we may not know we are doing it, it’s happening. I’ll give you one guess as to why this one has jumped up in the ranks so much.
Yes …… bang on you nailed it, social media!
Social Media has become a comparison spot, the reality is many are comparing their behind the scenes footage with everyone else’s highlight reels?
As much as I feel that social media is a great tool of help for many, it also acts as a large proponent into why comparison is the crippling factor for so many.
The other aspect here is that it can also distract us from what we are doing or allows what I like to call shiny object syndrome to creep in.
“They are doing this, so it must be what I need to do”
Do it for you, keep your eyes forward and focused in on your own lane, it’s your race and that is all that matters here. Everyone else's Is remedial so go at your own pace.
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3 “Different" things to remember that will help you succeed with any goal:
Over the years I’ve been fortunate to work with thousands of people by successfully transforming the way they think, look and feel. Athletes, business leaders, their teams / employees, speakers and influencers. With many of these succeeding towards their goal and striving forward. I consistently see patterns, habits and behaviours within those heading towards their goal.
But what is it that they do that makes them succeed and what can we all take away from it?
Here’s a few things I see that anyone can take away, learn from and implement that will help them win in any area…..
Walking into fear:
They see fear as a form of growth and accept that this is something that can / will crop up at some point. For most those fears are failure, not being good enough or what others will think and say.
They lean forwards into fear and learn from what lies on the the other side.
Remember: When ever you feel fear it is an opportunity to break down barriers, break the chains that anchor you back and create new beliefs or the adverse validate the old beliefs that are keeping you stuck.
Think about it: Fear is thought, most of the time unfactual and a story we play over and over. The more that fear is left to fester in time the more it grows.
Fear, you know that feeling you get in the pit of your stomach, the cold chill, the goose bumps, that feeling is providing you with a choice of actions, so walk into it.
The voice that says “what if” imagine if it spoke a different story “what if" it turns out to be the best thing you have ever done and opens up a huge door of opportunity…. you wouldn’t hesitate.
Energy balance, they understand the importance of SELF and the importance of rest.
This is something I speak about a lot at gigs & corporate events, we must look after number one and recharge in a positive manner.
Hands up…… Who has burned them selves out in the past? MY HAND IS WELL up there.
Take a look at the energy quadrant.
Most of the time we are jumping between HIGH PERFORMANCE & SURVIVAL that often we bottom out and bammmm energy has gone. Your adrenals are smoked and all you want to do is stay in bed, speak to no one and watch old episodes of Friends (now on Netflix).
This happens as a case of not understanding the importance of taking a productive break AKA YOU TIME.
A disconnected rest window, a period of you time, clear thoughts, nothing stressful and time to realign to what your doing.
Now in the corporate world, I love this as it’s one lesson I can give that sees huge impact in a companies creativity, energy, clarity and work ethic.
Energy balance is critical for you to perform at your best in every area of your life.
Without you the above collapses. Understanding the importance of productive rest really is a game changer. The best thing is that it's has been shown that a small window of 10 minutes is all it takes to gain mindfulness and clarity.
If you haven’t got 10 minutes to invest in yourself then I suggest you stop here and put the phone down.
When was the last time you have took stock over everything you were doing and asked.
Is this for me?
Is this moving me forwards?
Is this growing me personally?
Is this adding value to my life?
Am I enjoying myself?
Recalibration is a fantastic tool just massively under looked. It’s a case of looking into all your energy outlets… (Where are you placing your investments, by this I don’t mean money but more your time, energy etc)
Keeping check of all these outlets. In doing so this allows you to be fully aware on everything you are doing and allows you to very quickly change something that may be leaching your time, energy or confidence.
Example….. I was over at Google the other day and I found out that 2 hours+ is a day is the average time spent on social media by us Brits….. Yup, shocking isn’t it?
1 - Where could that time be spent better?
2 - How do you feel whilst using it? Most people I speak to use it as a comparison tool and that in itself is soul destroying!
Become a protector of your time, energy and confidence
Just like you check your bank balance to see if it’s healthy, check where your time, energy, confidence is being spent also. To me they are more valuable currencies than any and if one of those valuable 3 goes it has an affect on all of them.
These are 3 things to remember I see people who are winning doing on the regular.
They face fear head on, I can assure you at one point that fear started small… maybe saying “hi” to a stranger
They look after number one, before the rest of the world get’s a look in, if they are performing at their best then everything around them can get the best of them
They are super aware, if something isn’t working or making them feel a certain way it gets changed.
These are a few things that can help you raise your game, whatever the goal.
Fitness and health
Social and relations
Let me know if this helped you, Go Win!
If you want to chat more my door is alway open just reach out.
Simon (AKA Si)