Two over looked reasons that derail progress
Do you keep setting off on a journey of change only to discover a few days, weeks into it, to realise you keep dropping off and disconnecting from what it is you set out to achieve.
If this is you, keep reading, stay with me and hopefully I can help you on this one……
I’m a big fan of speaking to people who follow my work, now one of my biggest personal daily drivers is to look into the pains of people who are trying to change and look how we can create systems to help people move forward.
So a fun fact for you, did you know only 5% of people who set goals actually see them through to the end? Crazy right….?
Here are 2 different or overlooked reasons that I see derail those who have set out on a path of change, growth and transformation.
1 - The goal isn’t for them
Before I write any more, I want you to do one little exercise for me.
Stop for a second, take a big breath in, hold it for 4 seconds, breath out and without justification, thought or questioning ask yourself.
“Is what I am working towards actually for me?” Answer, straight away…. GO!
On a day to day I see and speak to so many people who keep setting out to achieve goals to please other people or to prove a point to someone that isn’t them.
Your goals, these must to be for you, to please you and to add only value to your life.
If it goes against any of the above, the likely hood is you’ll derail pretty quick or worse if you are like me super stubborn and do what I did:
For those that have followed me, seen me speak, a story I love to teach is the one of climbing a mountain only to realise once at the top you’ve climbed the wrong one.
This one I can speak so openly about and empathise with so many people because I too have done this. However, I’m one of the stubbornest MOFO’s ever and giving up isn’t in my thought process. So this one didn’t derail me and unfortunately I saw it through after a lot of time, investment and hard work. So when when I accomplished it, it was a very empty feeling.
So trust me here the beginning phase of setting a goal for many, can usually be the place most fall.
I see this because goals sometimes can act as the wrong motivation driver, as they become external tools for people to meet their basic human needs. (usually significance or connection)
Ensure that of which you are about to commit to and invest in, is for you and you only.
2 – Comparison
Comparison, this one I have seen over the years climb up the ranks of Simon’s why I see people give up-meter. AKA the FAILDAR
Comparison although we may not know we are doing it, it’s happening. I’ll give you one guess as to why this one has jumped up in the ranks so much.
Yes …… bang on you nailed it, social media!
Social Media has become a comparison spot, the reality is many are comparing their behind the scenes footage with everyone else’s highlight reels?
As much as I feel that social media is a great tool of help for many, it also acts as a large proponent into why comparison is the crippling factor for so many.
The other aspect here is that it can also distract us from what we are doing or allows what I like to call shiny object syndrome to creep in.
“They are doing this, so it must be what I need to do”
Do it for you, keep your eyes forward and focused in on your own lane, it’s your race and that is all that matters here. Everyone else's Is remedial so go at your own pace.
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